Everytime l disagree with anyone in my family they automatically say, ''your medication needs to be adjusted''.I am really tired of it.It is driving me away from them and though l love them, it just makes me feel more ''defective'' than l already feel.

Does anyone else have this issue?How do you handle it?
It is going to be REALLY hard to choose a best answer for this one.You guys are fantastic!

yeh my mom does it all the time
if l say l seen something or heard someone say somthing she just says lets go back to the doctor and see if he can do anything with your meds to help..
its quite irritating but just try to explain to them that it doesnt have to be like that for every little experiance
good luck
x

You are entitled to have a bad day without any reason.
l do not adjust my meds just because l got angry at someone or am having a bad day.
Tell them that you have the right to disagree, or be angry.

When another person in the family is having a bad day, do they run to the Dr. for meds?

Learn to stand up for yourself.

l did.

Yes! Families always seem to blame something else so that they don;t have to take any blame themselves. It is really irritating and makes you want to scream. Try explaining that just because you have a certain illness it does not mean you lost every other human emotion and that your entitled to feel the way you want to and it is not always related back to medication. Trying to explain a mental illness to people is really hard though so try your best but try not to stress.

l have the opposite problem. Every time my illness starts to affect me, my family gets upset with me personally and completely forgets that l have a problem.

One thing that usually helps, no matter what the deal it, though..is talking to them. Tell them how it makes you feel, as your doctor what you could do or say.

It has happened in the past. And you're right, it really sucks. It is almost akin to a betrayal of trust . like, l let u in, l told u how l feel, what is going on, what is wrong . & now you're using it against me in a time of struggle? It is so wrong on so many levels. What l have realized is that often times, people who do not understand what l am going through tend to generalize things & tend to be afraid of what it is that l deal with . & also, l think a certain amount of it comes down to control. They will pull out the whole ''mental illness'' card so they can ''win'' whatever battle is at hand. You're not defective. You r normal. For YOU. The difficulty comes with learning to accept ourselves as we r & learning to live happily, & realizing that while our ''normal'' might not be someone else is idea of ''normal that is ok. We r just fine.

hell yes
its either ''your medication needs to be adjusted'' or ''did u remember ur medication'' or ''are u sure ur medications working'' or ''maybe its time for a new/additional medication'' & ''how about we just medicate everything away & if ur still conscious by the end of it u get a smiley face sticker & a check plus'' ok the last one was a joke but seriously l hate it because its like ok do u have any tact at all l mean l just know theyd never say something like that to a non family friend who they knew had a mental illness & its really none of tehir business is it unless ur posing a danger to yourself or others (which obviously ur not if ur just disagreeing with them on something) then they should really keep out of ur affairs & whenever it happens & l suck it up l feel like l just want to block out the memory which is why l dont suck it up anymore cause its not right & the only way to change things is to take charge & do something about it

so now l handle it by saying something like ''i feel defective when l am viewed in terms of my illness rather than as a human being with opinions that r no less valid than anyone elses so just because l disagree with u doesnt mean that im automatically 'wrong' just because l am ill & that its a sign my medication needs to be adjusted l am not controlled by medication l use medication to help me control myself & id appreciate it if my personal matters were kept that way-personal!''

ok well that was the polite way but what l really say is ''screw u mind ur own business im not just a side effect'' yesss l have anger issues anyway l hope l helped at least give u an idea of what to convey but u might want to make it less wordy than mine l have trouble with that & things tend to lose their impact the more wordy they are

you know what sucks equally bad ? when those same people who say that the meds need to be pushed up a notch in the moment if ur talking about something thats not directly jsut happened (like my longstanding difficulty preparing food for myself) its as if they think im completely fine & im to blame for all my problems

what would really help for them to get is balance between accepting the limitations ur illness imposes on u & then coming up with ways to overcome them it takes time but hey its worth it