am really stuck in a rut right now and having a hard time getting out of this depression. My ex and l decided to get back together and work on things about 1.5 months ago and it has been a roller coast since. She considers use just ''dating'' even though we sleep together, say l love you, get each other stuff, etc... However, she does not wanna be exclusive and say we should have the opportunity to date other people. No sex with them is the stipulation.

After keeping it under my skin for a couple of weeks, l confronted her about this and told her in order to be healthy we should not be adding other people to the mix since it will create much more of a divide. She continued to state she is confused and is just not ready to be exclusive. Since this discussion, we have seen each other and been out on two dates, but there is a lot of tension and her lines of communication have been decreasing. We were texting each other all day, and now she will give me a call going in to work, on the way back home and before she goes to bed, with nothing really in between.

l am really lost and depressed right now. l truely love her and have been talking to other girls and at least creating date opportunities to protect myself, but l do not know how to save this relationship from getting worse. l know l look dependent to her because l am in the midst of changing careers, and have been miserable lately with other aspects of my life. Currently seeing a counselor, but not sure what more l can do to create relief to the situation. Trying to give her space and seperation, but am truely lost. Not wanting to give up on love. Help!

If u really want something, fight for it. If u fight & stay in the struggle long enough, u will get what u want. As for the depression, u just need to stop focusing on the negative & look at the positive. Whether the positive is in the present, or in the future. You can think to yourself now ''Well if l continue to love her & talk to her l can overcome this & we can be happy together''. Relaxing also helps in situations like these. Your probably as tense as a piano string. Sit down & do some meditating to get ur mind relaxed so u can stop focusing on all the negatives happening, & look at the good that can come out of it all. Your stressed, ur Human, & it is normal.

The relationship you have with the Mrs. is not a relationship at all. l mean, it does not work. You are not standing up for yourself. Take action no matter what the outcome. This pre-date thing is a buffer that has no merit for your getting well. Do not squander your life away, even if it be two days. And, do not give up on love. It just wo not be with her.

It does not sound like she is ready to have an exclusive relationship right now, If she is not ready for it there is not alot u can do. u need to decide whats best for you, Try & get ur self out with other friends & keep busy, u will be surprised how soon it stops being so hard, especially when u get ur new career going , u will feel better about ur self. Maybe some day in the Future she will be ready but u need to decide if waiting for that is the best thing for you, good luck & lean on ur friends alittle for help it what there for

Sounds like she is trying to have her cake & eat it too. You've only been to happy to indulge her.

IMHO, this is unhealthy & rightfully confusing for u both. You need to make a decision about what u want. If u want her, than it should be exclusive. If u do not want her, than break all the ties & move on. You deserve to be treated on ur terms. You need to firmly establish some healthy boundaries. You will be saving yourself a lot of drama & heartache in the long run.

This is the perfect set up for a love triangle. She is looking to drop u as soon as she can find someone to take ur place because she does not want to be alone either. It is gonna drive u nuts & ur going to lose more in the end. You need to take a stand.