she is in tears all the time and l do not seem to be able to make her feel any better i'm at my wits end- any advice
thanks
her GP has put her in touch with the local mental health teamshe is now just waiting to see a mental health consulant
CBT has been reccomended to her by the GP
professional help is great of course
but what can l do to help out

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Unfortunately, there is not a lot you can do. Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain. Try to get her into a psychiatrist who can get her on some antidepressants, which will help her immensily.
Also just be there for her.

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First u should be sure that it is depression. And if it is depression, pl contact a mental health professional for help.
And regarding ur question about how u should behave is giving the proper information about the problems with focusing on the hope of better tomorrow. Pl check the info below-

What is Depression?

Depression is a serious medical illness; it’s not something that u have made up in ur head. It’s more than just feeling ''down in the dumps'' or ''blue'' for a few days. It’s feeling ''down'' & ''low'' & ''hopeless'' for weeks at a time.

Signs & Symptoms: a duration of at least two weeks

* Persistent sad, anxious, or ''empty'' mood
* Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism
* Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness
* Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies & activities that were once enjoyed

Treatment

A variety of treatments including medications & short-term psychotherapies have proven effective for depression

for more details, pl visit http://nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/de.

Just be there for her. stand by her. let her know that you arenot going to leave her just because she is depressed!
try talking to her to find out what is causing her to feel so low and sad!
just try to be a good friend and a good boyfriend at the same time! be her rock be there to dry her eyes and stand by her.
she needs you more than ever right now. just be there over her a cuddle when she is crying! kiss her softly on the face! just be there

tell that chick to get a life!! Dump her like next weeks pair of dumplings!! listen to me ive been there and done tht!!!

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Hi,

l have suffered from depression on & off for years, best thing just be there for her. Give her some space if she needs space, do not push the issues just allow her to cry she needs to let it all out, do some research on the causes & the cures. Food & exercise can help, there alots of natural remedies as well u can get from health shops, show an interest but do not be over baring.

Good luck & l hope she beats it (well done u for caring enough to ask the question - that is good she has u on her side some guys would run a mile)

Just Be Supportive And Comfort Her When She is Sad
Be There If She Needs To Talk And Try To Surround Her In Happiness

There is Not Much Else You Can Do
My Bf Helped Me When l Was Depressed..He Was There When l Cried And When l Felt l Could not Go On..And He Was My Stability..Him And My Mom

Be Her Stability..She will Appreciate It
Let Her Know She Can Talk To You About Anything
It will Help

Hope All Goes Well

cuddle her make sure she knows ur there & that ur not going to abandon her other than that that is it support her
depression kills remember that try & get her some help & go with her support her as much as u can
you alone wo not be able to fix her she needs a psych support is all u can do & l mean really support her
it will be hard & long be ready for anything
never get angry at her if she does something dumb like hurt herself
understand that depression is not an emotion it is a sickness

First of all keep yourself happy & well u wont be any good to her if u start to get low to. Just be there for her talk through things if shes up to it. Encourage her to go to therapy if the doctor has offered it it will help. Dont focus all ur attention on the depression either. Bear with her through her low patches let her shout & rant. |Suggest she keeps a jornal if she cant talk things through just emptying her thoughts will help. Try to get her to go out just u & her for a walk or something. Keeping a daliy routine will help stop her spiralling down even more. Im gonna sound really old when im not but l like just going out & looking at things like Museums garden centres pet shops the zoo etc.. Choose quiet places where the wont be loads of people so she doesnt get scared. Depression is horrible & only she can get over it but with ur support she can do it. When im really bad l become addicted to Lush bath stuff! if she likes baths get her to go in lush its one of my places to look at (and smell)!!!

Well, any girl would like to be treated like a queen for a day. l suggest that you take to a special place, it can be anywhere. Make her feel special and loved. Show her that you care, then her depression should stop over time. Maybe the tears would stop, tears show how sad she is and how hurt she is also. Please try this and see what happens.

First off that is so great that u want to help her!! l think that is sweet!
Second off, u need to make sure that it is depression & not something else. Could she be pregnant? But if it is depression, she may need medication because it is a chemical imbalance in the brain. Also try to take her for walks. The sun is a natural antidepressant & when u exercise it releases serotonin & that is a happy chemical. So try to just let her cry on ur shoulder when she needs to & try to keep her busy. The best thing is for her not to think about it all day, cause that can only make it worse. Try helping her out if she gets frustrated doing something, & always let her know that u r there. It will pass hopefully & the medication will help. Good Luck to you, what u r doing l think is great!!

l should report some of these that r at minimum rotten.

If l can help in any wy do email me & l will give u my address. l can then email her & u & give support. In short u & her need help. There is no way one can pull out of anything like this.

Be there for her, tell her u love her, care for her etc

In the end though u might have to get help for yourself.

DO get her to a doctors, counsellors & if she goes to church they can also be supportive.

Make sure she eats properly as often they do not as they wallow so much it is hard to get her to eat.

If u get through this ur life will be wonderful & caring for each other. so be strong.

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1st off,be there for her regardless of whats said or done to u by her at this moment.(she does not mean it)
2nd try & get her to go to a doctor who she can talk with,he/she might prescribe some medication to help her chemical imbalance(in her brain)
3rd she probably does not fully understand what & why she is feeling,so do not ask & expect an answer.
4th allow her to cry on ur shoulder/presence if she wants.
5th just by being there helps,do not run away or say something like ''snap out of it''
6th do not expect to be able to make her snap out of it.it takes time & patience
7th if it is really bad take her to the hospital for help.
8th if her home is in bad shape ,do the dishes,and some basic straightening up for her w/o making her feel bad(if possible)considering she probably do not want/can do it for herself right now.(my friends did this for me,and having the house done helped me feel less overwhelmed with my chores)
9th keep a close eye on her for suicidal thoughts/try's
And last but not least, Thanks for being there & caring so much..

CBT is fine. But there is one more thing that can help: The Bible. Check out this website for more help: mentalhealthsolutions.info

dude l just took two weeks off myself & will be coming back today. the thing she needs to do is keep busy be around u & family & just do things that will make her feel better. volunteer, attend church gatherings. u have to be her backbone for her though. l did not really do nothing except drink & play basketball but l am doing ok. now l have to be ready for the same thing l left for. but the thing people will do when she comes back is that they will have a better understanding & hopefully do something good & be aware of her. best of luck

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The best way you could help her is make her go back to work. Depression is for lazy wimps

The best line anyone ever used on me was . ''a better day will come''..

sadly u cannot change or cure what is wrong, all u can do is be there for her in a non-suffocating & non-controlling way. This is not easy.

When u have depression u cannot make decisions, therefore when u ask if she wants to go somewhere do not leave it as an open-ended question like ''Do u want to go out?'' because this will just give her more stress & anxiety.

Think of something to do like go to the cinema to see a film, research what is on, choose a film she may like, then say ''Would u like to see such & such film on Friday at 6''? This makes the decision much easier. She will either want to go or not. Do not take it personally if it is a no though, sometimes u cannot cope with going out.

My final advice would be arrange a few ''little trips'' like cinema one day, maybe out to lunch 2 days later, & so on. Give her the opportunity to say no if she wants to. Do not arrange or organise anything major. Do not plan or think about any activities too far ahead. Today or tomorrow is best. When u r depressed u can not think or plan too far ahead. Finally when u go out just hold her hand (do not smother her) & say, a better day will come, we will get through this.