Let me start with my definition of jealousy:
A perceived threat based on some irrational view.Causes for this behavior stemming from low self esteem, feelings of inferiority, etc...

In every relationship l have ever had, l have obsessed over my girlfriends history.l am 38, and this time have had at least a few relationships.Each one suffered, and some ended because of this.

While l have many obsessive tendancies, and have been considered to have OCD, no official dignosis has been made.Rest assured, l check my doors a hundred times a night, and drive home at least once a day to check the stove, even though l do not even use it.My fingers bleed and ache constantly from biting and picking at my skin.

During my life, l have been cheated on in relationships, and my parents marriage did consist of infidelity.Many times l have been accused of low self esteem.

When a girlfriend even mentions an ex, l freeze.Immediately, l begin to resent her, and consider leaving.Given the choice, l would gladly take any physical pain I've ever known over this feeling. l would not describe this as jealous.Close, but it does not fit my own working definition.After 38 years, this is starting to take its toll.If it is treatable, both l and any future person l might date would greatly appreciate any information.Recently, l have become aware of this Relationship OCD.Sounds a bit contrived, but I am interested.

l have OCD but l have never experienced that. But it could be a form of obsession. Why have not you seen a doctor for your OCD and started taking medication? It was the best thing l ever did. You are going to wish you started a long time ago. Medication helps you with family, friends work and most important relationships.

l was diagnosed with OCD at age 18. While l do not have the jealous tendencies u describe, l can definitely sympathize with others, such as skin biting/picking. l absolutely believe that ur OCD is affecting ur relationships; OCD sucks! Have u seen a therapist, or r u taking medication? l take Zoloft, & it has helped me tremendously. l would suggest making an appointment with a psychiatrist or even ur family doctor. Good luck, & know that u r not alone with OCD!