l had bouts with depression off and on for a few years now, since my divorce.I am sure it has a lot to do with the overwhelming sense of ''what do l do now''.l married young and before that had always lived with someone.Now l find myself slipping back into a depression mode.

If you've gone through this before, how did you ''snap'' out of it?What tips do you have that could possibly help me?

No medication suggestions please, l refuse to take medication for things.

Yes. l was married to the same man for 24 1/2 years & had 2 children. During the process of the divorce my 2 children became 18 & moved out on their own. WOW!
l come from a large family & so grew up with plenty of people around, then during my marriage of course had my own family around then all of a sudden found myself totally alone with only a high school diploma, no job training because l was a house wife, the only thing l had was 1/2 of my ex is retirement benefits & a disability with my back. l bought myself a little 2 bdrm trailer & shut myself up for 2 years. The depression was so bad, l could not function at all. Could not walk out the front door to the mail box & would only go out in the middle of the night around 3am to a 24 hour grocery store. l even developed this thing where l could not answer the phone. My sisters would come knocking at the door & call to no avail. Both my kids were out of the state in the military & so there l was. That was the first bout l had with depression. One day l forced myself up & actually showered, got dressed & even put some make up on & made myself go for a walk. l did not allow myself to go back into the house for nine hours. The next day, l made myself to to the store at 5pm, their busiest time, then another walk.
That was in 1995 through 1997. After than l was fine for the next 5 years & then it struck again. l have no medical insurance & could not go to the md & the spinal arthritus & pain became so bad that most days l could not even get myself off the bed to go to the bathroom. This is not a good thing when u live alone. That time with the depression, l had a lot of suicidal thoughts & was not a good person to be around. My grandkids were the only ones who could lift me out of it for a while but when they would go home, there l would go again. This lasted until July of 2007. l picked up the phone & called Pods to deliver me a Pod & l moved all my stuff into it. l just could not stay in the city any more. That little house had so much negaitvity in it from all my depression & suicidal thoughts that l felt if l moved l could beat it. l moved in with my daughter & her husband & two boys until l found another perfect little trailor with a much lower mortgage on one acre of fenced land & out of the city. Since that day l decided to move & do something about my life for myself l have actually been the happiest I've ever been. My pain has never stayed so light since l was 32 years old & actually most days l have no pain at all. Maybe all of this change in me is because l started taking a good multivitamin & B50-complex every day & come hell or high water, l make myself smile & l just stay in this moment & on top of the ramblings in my mind. l refuse all negative & self defeating thoughts by remaining in only this moment & making myself smile.
l hope some little thing l have shared with u will help u out a tad.
Good luck & may God bless you.
Now smile

There r stages that everyone goes though.
Guilt: was it my fault? Should l have tried harder?
We can rule that out, because in a relationship it concerns the work of two people.
In a relationship if one partner goes with another person it means that the first person is second best or third best.
Having got that out the way.
If its possible? You must join a club or organisation & if they r not suitable? Keep changing until u find one that does.
Help someone less fortunate than yourself.
You now know what u want in a relationship, but remember, no person is perfect.
l find that the nighttime is when l feel so alone, but then l remember the number of people in the world that r less fortunate than myself.
and if all else fails. Get yourself a dog they r very loyal, or any pet that needs looking after.
Remember depression is a mood, & so u have to learn to change the way u look at situations, & change ur bad moods for some situations that gave u pleasure outside of the relationship.
l hope this helps? good luck.